5 Signs Your Blogging Honeymoon Is Over (And How To Deal!)

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Joey promised me a couple of months back that my boundless enthusiasm for blogging was destined to wane. While I initially dismissed this as one of those crazy, irreverent fiction he likes to spout – I have to admit he’s right! My honeymoon period is coming to an end – no longer is blogging filled with all things shiny and good. I have to -gasp- put effort into my hobby now. Do you suffer from the post-honeymoon blues? Check below for the symptoms.

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I. Most books you read seem a little lacklustre

Last week I DNF-d three books and wrote two 3-stars review. Now, my 3-stars reviews are usually quite positive, I aim to be nice and diplomatic – but I found myself exceedingly critical. I also felt I had little patience for less than stellar reads. I confess to having spent more time complaining about books on twitter, DM and Gchat than actually reading or reviewing them,

HOW I HANDLE IT:  I stopped reading review copies for a week and started reading books I’ve had lying around on my Kindle for a while. Sometimes I even read with no intentions of reviewing the book, which takes the pressure of needing to commentate on every plot point a bit more bearable. Once my reading diet is healthy with 4 to 5 stars reads, I’d go back to conquering that ARC TBR. I want to put myself in a frame of mind where I am constantly grateful about reviewing, rather than seeing it as a chore.

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II. Opening that Word Document to write a review is an effort on its own

You know that feeling of dread before you have to write a review? The one that tells you ‘You have nothing to say about this book’? I procrastinate on a lot of my reviews because I know they would be difficult to write. Unfortunately, the longer I leave it, the worse it gets because I start forgetting stuff and have even LESS to write.

HOW I HANDLE IT: : Jazz up your usual reviews a little. If you’re used to writing paragraphs: attempt lists instead. If you’re accustomed to writing lists, you can put a ‘theme’ to your list e.g. In my review of Never Never (which I avoided writing for THREE WEEKS), I summed up my thoughts by writing about my opinions on fairy tale retellings in general as well.

Alternatively, you can introduce non review posts to your blog: Graphics? Fan arts? Discussion posts? Book Tags? They’re all great ways to change up the pace.

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III. You start being bothered by what other bloggers are doing

Maybe this just happens to me because I am a horrible person, but in my negativity, sometimes I start getting annoyed by other bloggers. Things such as ‘Why does XX seem to love every book they read, are they for real?!’, or ‘All these pictures of XX’s bookmail are really freaking annoying!’ starts to cross my mind. Usually, the blogger in question is doing nothing more than BEING HAPPY.

HOW I HANDLE IT:  This is pretty much the worst symptom, and I find the best way to get over it is to get in there and start interacting with other bloggers. Recognise that XX is likely NOT ragging or dishonest, it may just be my own personal negativity that’s projecting onto them. Talk to your friends about what’s bothering you. Air your grievances by a discussion post (though remember to keep it classy). Alternatively, just disconnect from the Internet altogether for the night and go watch some telly instead. When you feel more positive, everyone will become lovable again.

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IV. You stop looking at your stats altogether

I confess that I have stopped looking at my pageviews or follower count for the last 2 weeks. While stats is not everything, I find that ignoring them altogether is a sign my honeymoon period is truly over. Stats are still a great way to gauge how well I am engaging my audience, and to create content that keeps engaging them. I should not avoid it just because I think the blog is under-performing.

HOW I HANDLE IT:  Don’t shy away from the numbers – while they might not be everything, they still give a good indication of how you’re doing and help you set goals for the blog. A blog with no direction will never engage its own owner, which is a quick spiral to apathy. I find I have more motivation if I have something to work towards, whether it be a small increase in followers or weekly pageviews. The stats is not all evil.

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V. You start to indulge in other hobbies

When I first started blogging, it was much like the beginning of a new romantic relationship. I only wanted to read, blog, and tweet to other bloggers. Then the rose-tinted glasses fall away and I spend my night parked in front of the tv, or off planning my next holiday instead.

HOW I HANDLE IT: There absolutely does not need to be a cure for this, you’re allowed other hobbies, this is not your job! I find that knowing other stuff helps me with my blogging as well, in the long run. Whether it enables you to create a recommendation posts for books based on TV series; or fancast more accurately; or feature a travel destination in a blog post. Basically, you should be allowed to love what you do, even if it’s not book related.


Do you have any other tips you could use to reignite your love for books and blogging, I would LOVE to hear it.  Do you suffer from any of my symptoms? Or are you completely opposite? Please share!

111 thoughts on “5 Signs Your Blogging Honeymoon Is Over (And How To Deal!)

  1. HAHA yes I know what you mean. I’ve been blogging for three years now but I still go through stages where I lose motivation for blogging. LIke…now, for instance. I haven’t been posting much so I’m terrified to look at stats. Sometimes a break is good, too 🙂

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    1. I hope you get to the good cycle again once your HSC are finished! I don’t want to look at stats when I haven’t been posting either, that’s just asking for pain haha! I plan to take a break in November when I’m overseas so hopefully I’ll be back all recharged!

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    1. Hahaha I am even too lazy to do book tags, I am horrible at thinking up titles of books I’ve read. I think your content can be whatever as long as you’re having fun!

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  2. I took the month of August off – not planned, but it just happened, and totally renewed my enthusiasm! I have set goals for what I want to do each month, but have decided to let what happens, happens. Your tips for getting back on track look right on the money. Good post!! 🙂

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    1. Awesome to hear that you got your creative juices back after going on a break! I plan to take a break from the blog late November as I am going overseas and to be honest I’m really looking forward to it!!

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  3. This blog post is gorgeous and relatable as hell.

    I suffer from Point 2 and 3 the most. I’ve four books I keep putting away for reviewing and that’s just damnable because already the storylines are trickling away from my memories, so I have to struggle to form words for them. Opening Word Doc is becoming too much a struggle and I dread reviewing most books these days because I now suffer from major self-doubt. I feel my reviewng voice does not stand out, etc etc etc (you know, the usual self-pitying stuff). How I handle this is by taking a break from reviewing. I pull back and decided that I DON’T HAVE TO review ALL the books I read. It’s not a given must, is it? I lay off my freaking out and I’m slightly doing better now. I think I will try to list things in my reviews like you do sometimes. I never done anything like that for fear of coming off unoriginal haha ._.

    And number 3 is what I can relate to THE MOST. I get annoyed and angry at other people who I NEVER even talk to online. Am I a jerk or what? But yeah, some people can come off as annoying (to be blunt). How I handle this? Well, I don’t try to interact with them. I can’t interact with anyone who gets on my nerves for some reasons. Instead what I do is pull my co-bloggers into the picture and rant it out to them xDD they’re like my outlets for everything: Ideas. Raves. Rants…

    Otherwise I just shrug off my annoyance and went back to whatever it is I am doing at the moment.

    I don’t think I have any helpful tips that can help anyone reignite their love of their hobbies. I believe that sooner or later, some people will get tired of doing the same thing over & over again. You can’t help/stop it sometimes. It’s all about their choices in the end.

    But if you feel that the books you’re reading start to sound like the same repeated stuffs, I suggest braching out to other genres. Something that delves outside your usual comfort zone.

    I just want you to know that (because it seems like your love for the blogosphere is slowly starting to wane *sad face*) you have readers who root for you. I’m like.. one of your admirers, for goodness’s sake. I WILL MISS YOU terribly, horribly if you start to go MIA and then absent the next. No pressure on your side though. None at all! :p

    Great post, Aentee ♡ sorry if this comment is too long ._.v

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    1. Thank you Evelyn and NO COMMENT FROM YOU ARE EVER TOO LONG *SQUISHES*

      Fear not, I am NOT leaving the blogosphere any time soon – just not going to be posting crazily every day like I did when I first began haha! Maybe a once every 2 days schedule will be adopted until I work up enough courage to look for a coblogger?

      I am SO GLAD I am not the only one that randomly gets grumpy at people haha. I was feeling horrible for admitting it but I knew that y’all couldn’t be sparkly and cute all the time either 😉 I have taken to venting on Gchat as well.. speaking of which we totally need to find each other on there more? I am almost certain we would find the same sort of people annoying so we can be horrible together *beams*

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  4. I read so many books last month that seemed really average but then I realised that I was reading too many ARCs. So this month I’m trying to read only books that I want to read and I already feel heaps better. I’m proud to say that I only have 1 must-review ARC on my shelf as well as a couple of others that I won on Goodreads and through you 😀 I feel so much better now. Of course I then went out and bought like 15 books in the last 2-3 weeks and my TBR is now daunting. I never learn.

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    1. I know, isn’t so weird that we actually REQUEST these ARCs and yet they never seem to be as shiny or wonderful as the books we bought ourselves? I wonder if it’s because they were ‘free’ or because we feel obligated to read them within a certain time frame. I also bought like 10 books last week so I CANNOT HELP YOU SADLY D:

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  5. Fortunatelly, I do not suffer from all the symptoms. Yet. I can happily say, that even after almost 3 sears of blogging, I still find joy while blogging. But symptoms I. and II. make an appearance from time to time. My solution? I stop taking part in blog tours so I don feel pressure of deadlines for reviewing (ARCs are okay, I dont have deadline). Making fan art and discussion posts instead of reviews also helps. But you mentioned it all yourself 🙂

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    1. Tell me your secrets Lucia! 3 years is a heck of a long time to blog without any signs of exhaustion and I am SO happy for you! I never took part in Blog Tour in the first place because they don’t seem appealing to me haha. I love making discussion posts and graphics so it’s definitely something that always inspire me to blog more. Thanks for sharing your insights ❤

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  6. Ooh, fabulous post! I don’t relate to points 1 and 2 so much since I don’t review books on the blog, but the other points — ABSOLUTELY. I think I stop looking at stats if they fall, which is really the time I should study them more to figure out why. But that crushing feeling of “argh what happened” is really discouraging sometimes, and I do need a break from the numbers. And haha, I wish I had time for other hobbies. Math homework, maybe. Hahahaha.

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    1. I don’t look at stats when I’m not posting much because it’s just depressing how quickly people ‘forget’ about your blog – but I guess it’s because there’s a constant stream of new posts to keep up with all the time. Omg your writing is almost the MOST wondrous way to spend any spare moment, I assure you. WRITE FASTER.

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  7. Great discussion, Aentee! I can so relate to many of them. I’ve been a “victim” of sorts of 1, 2, 3, and 5. Haha! So this speaks to me in many levels. The 2 and 3 have struck me especially hard when they came. There came a time when writing a review, or just attempting to write it, was so exhausting. I literally lost my motivation and inspiration. This happened like 2 years after I started, but thankfully, I was able to get back up 😉 But the hobbies thing is so true! Now I want to do youtube gaming, I want to draw, I want to watch TVs, and when I attempt any of those things I go “but ughhh why do I have to finish this book?” Haha! It’s not so bad though once you have a routine already 😀

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    1. Thank you Faye ❤ I need to learn from you as you are definitely the chillest blogger around despite your ability to blog and read and vlog like no body's business haha! I've enjoyed all the books I've read this week so things are starting to look up for me again!!

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  8. I’ve been out of my Blogger Honey Moon Phase for a while now. Don’t get me wrong, I still love doing this, but it’s been becoming harder and harder to stay active!

    One way I’ve been coping is, less reviews and more Tags/memes, and interacting with other blogger’s posts. No more ARC’s for me (I think that’s what killed everything for me to begin with) and I will only review books I read if I want to or have something to say.

    It’s been helping out a lot! I’m not all about making sure I have posts everyday or good blogstats anymore. I want to take things at my own speed from now on.

    Great post as always!

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    1. I agree very much with the ARC thing Jesse, I still request them but only the ones I absolutely HAVE to read and I know I would move to the top of the TBR pile as soon as I obtain it. As for posting, I think we just need to find a schedule that fits us. I just post 2 reviews a week and 2 other posts now (along with 1 review/discussion at The Social Potato) and it’s been working really well for me!

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    1. Hahaha we totally have a blogging slump! I read a few books I loved this week though and I feel rejuvenated again. I hope you’ll find the book that turns it all around for you soon!

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  9. YES AENTEE!!!! I’ve been blogging for just over 5 years now and I have gone through this phase a number of times. I’m currently dealing with it now, and everything you’ve listed sounds gloriously familiar. Blogging is so much work, and as supportive as this community can be, it can also be brutal and guilty of perpetuating jealousy and negativity (particularly all those bookmail pictures you mentioned – I still after all this time see one of those images and wonder what about my blog isn’t good enough that I didn’t get such a package in the mail. And then I want to smack myself because there are more important things in life to stress over!).

    Doing something else for a week or so (like binge watching TV shows and movies) usually helps me as well. Fantastic tips!

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    1. I’ve been watching a lot of TV this week and it makes me miss reading and blogging, so I am back on track already haha. I think that there’s a lot more positive than negative in the community, and I am glad my twitter feed is filled with lovely and gracious people. The moment I feel a bit jealous of bookmail I just run from the internet and go play in some other corner, it tends to work XD Glad you could relate!

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  10. I think your symptoms are pretty spot on ❤ as for what I do, I let myself take a break from posting so much. Instead of trying to do one every day I let myself die down to three or so per week until I find the motivation to pick it back up again. I also will abandon the review copies I'm not entirely sure about and dive into something I really want to read, that usually helps.

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  11. I think I might be nearing the ending of my Honeymoon, but mostly because my life has become so busy that I haven’t enough time to blog. There are days I think ‘no, I have to write that review…ugh’.

    I do think ARCs may have to do something with this, because you have responsibility. Review them on time, review them ‘long’ enough, it feels more and more like a chore than something you do for fun. And at the moment I got so many bad ARCs… I always read one of my bought books in these cases. Read something good, you know?

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    1. I completely understand, the end of year is very busy as well so it makes it even harder to juggle out time consuming hobby. Just remember you don’t have to write reviews for every thing! Or maybe you can try mini reviews? I have read a couple of books I loved lately (Fangirl, The Dead House) so it has rejuvenated my love for blogging!

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  12. I completely agree with taking a step back and reading some personal books. It’s definitely helped me clear my mind before jumping into a pile of ARCs. Also, by alternating days I do hobbies keeps me happy. I enjoy a lot of crafting and when I feel like all I should be doing is reading really puts a damper on the actual book. So now I’ll read only a little bit and if I don’t feel it I go make some cute crafts or watch a show I need to catch up on. I try not to pressure myself.

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    1. Ooo what types of crafts do you do? I have been starting to read more books I’ve purchase based on GR ratings and it’s worked well for me. I absolutely adored Fangirl and it makes me want to blog and rave about books again!

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      1. I’m go glad you loved Fangirl! I put it off for so long thinking it was over hyped. I enjoy cross stitching, making felt plushes, making purses, and other various small super cute things. I’m getting ready to finally photograph all of them and I plan to upload them in a post. 🙂

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  13. This is an absolutely true and honest post and I love it Aentee! I feel like it’s so true that we have a honeymoon phase with our blogs and I can definitely identify with the “losing interest in stats” symptom. I tend to never look at my stats anymore!
    And its a sad thing when we realise we’ve gone out of that phase and we come to that time where there’s a sense of effort invloved. But it’s also a great thing too, especially if you stick through past that initial stage!
    This was awesome Aentee 💗

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    1. Haha I haven’t looked at my stats lately as I haven’t blogged much so I know they will be bad. But don’t worry too much about it, blog the way you want ❤ I think we just need to find a schedule that is doable for us whether it's posting thrice or once a week! Once we have a routine for blogging it will get easier,

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  14. I have definitely had a lot of these symptoms from time to time but it really depends on what I’m reading and what’s going on in the rest of my life. The truth is that blogging is a a lot of work and you really can’t step away from it for long otherwise everything gets backed up.

    BUT you need to know that I LOVE your blog and I love all of our twitter convos so you better stay around!

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    1. I agree, real life and the quality of the books you are reading definitely plays a huge role in motivation for the blog – I think as long as we are still happy enough to find time blogging, it’s qorth doing ❤ And OF COURSE, I will be around for a long time yet ❤

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  15. I have these stages too. It’s kind of a cycle. I try to cope by writing and scheduling posts all at once, then taking a break, and just replying to comments. I just was away for a week, and I didn’t have internet (or I don’t have a smartphone that can access wifi is the truth) anyway, I read lots of good books and now I feel ready for more blogging! Thank you for this thoughful post 🙂

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    1. I need to learn the art of scheduling posts, it sounds like it takes so much stress out of life haha. Thanks so much for the tips and I’m glad you’ve been reading a lot of great books ❤

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  16. I have written several discussion posts on this topic. I am almost to my fourth anniversary of blogging, and I have had plenty of ups and downs. Blogging is a huge undertaking and it is time consuming. My best advice is to take a step back, focus on reading a few books that you want to read and do some things that you love. You will go through those reading slumps, and I think that is a big reason why blogging gets to be a chore. Hopefully you can pick up a few books that you will love and that will reenergize you.

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    1. I never realised how consuming blogging could be until I started, I thought writing review would be EASY *laughs pitifully* Thank you so much for your advices ❤

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  17. Once again, you’ve nailed it with this post. Aentee. I’ve gone through each and every of these symptoms at some point (I still do!). It’s really hard at times and blogging can become very stressful. But I agree with all of your advice. Especially, the taking a step back from the interwebs and reading books other than from your ARC pile.
    Great post (and graphics!), Aentee!

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    1. Thank you Nick!! I am glad you could relate, but I’m sure your new adventures in blogging with Nereyda will open up an exciting new chapter for you!

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  18. I so can relate to this! I think it started around August for me. With school and everything I’ve been neglecting my blog and don’t really keep up with my followers unless they comment on my blog. Plus, I usually stay logged out of my social media accounts relating to my blog for the majority of the day. That way I’m productive with my real life… but it makes me lazy with blogging. I schedule all my posts for the month now and hardly feel up to replying to comments (even though I still love them)! Anyway, wonderful post, Aentee!

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    1. I know that with the beginning of the new school year, the blogging community has definitely gone into hibernation a little bit. Work and life has also been busy for me so like you, I tend to forget about people if they aren’t an active presence on twitter or my own blog. I feel terrible!! But I am glad you are getting to enjoy your real life ❤ Hopefully when the Christmas break comes around we will see you a little more 🙂

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  19. I don’t think I could ever purposely not look at my stats. 🙂 Not necessarily because I’m follower-obsessed, but because I like to keep track of things of what kinds of posts are interesting to people and if it matters when they’re posted. I recently moved a feature from Sun. to Wed. because no one ever looks at the blog over the weekend.

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    1. I tend not to blog at all on Sunday as I that’s my house chores / relaxation day haha! I like to keep up with stats as well, unless I am not posting very much then I know they would just be bad so I ignore them XD

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  20. It’s especially difficult when you have other commitments like work. You really want to spent your free time reading books that you enjoy. I guess that’s the downside of ARCs (I am literally guessing. I wouldn’t know). I think because I read less in general the books I do read are often ones that I have read up on beforehand. I can’t bear to spend my precious free time on books that might suck.

    I hope you can stick with it through this phase. Maybe you’ll find a new approach to reviewing that makes you feel more excited about it again. I don’t think you should shy away from writing terrible reviews either. I’ve only once really picked apart a book, but it was very satisfying!

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    1. The upside of ARC is that you don’t have to buy books, though! It’s a hobby that gets expensive quickly haha!! I only request ARC that I’ve heard good things about now. I am reading a couple of books lately that I’ve loved and it’s improved my moods a lot.

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  21. I do not look at my stats, have not looked at my stats in weeks! Right now, I don’t care! And I was writing my NaNo when I could’ve been blogging/reading, and I’m definitely going to pay for that when I start preparing for November this weekend! Sorry I’ve been missing!

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  22. Ahh, so true. SO RELATABLE. *collapses because is so relatable* I’ve been blogging for 4 years so I’ve kind of learned to pace myself…a little?!? Like I only recently got a bigger audience though. xD So I have to tell myself it’s okay to quit reading/blogging for this night and just watch copious amounts of Supernatural instead. Burn out is not fun!! So it’s good to make sure one paces oneself. *nods* I get really disheartened when I just have TOOOONS of bad reads. I love the reviewing processes so that’s never an issue for me, but omg, sometimes I rant too much?!? AND I FEEL SO GUITLY. heh. I also can get annoyed by other bloggers too. *shhhh* I think we all do at times, right?! And it’s kind of nice to confess it. I’m sure I annoy people at times too!! Sometimes I just have to back away from the internet and chill for a bit. *nods*

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    1. Because I am a horrible person, I am super glad you confessed to getting annoyed at other people sometimes. You are like the friendliest one out there so if you feel this way, I can rest VALIDATED 😉 teehee. I promise to have NEVER found you annoying! I have watched a lot of mindless TV lately and it’s been SUPERB.

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    1. Glad to hear you are feeling re-energised! I’m going on holiday at the end of November and hope to take a break as well :D!

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  23. You are spot on! I’m about to hit the two year mark on my blog and I am feeling number 1, 2, 4 & 5. It feels like reviewing is slowing killing my love of reading. I’ve decided to just try and get back into reading for readings sake, like you said, and get back to reviewing once I’ve got my happy back.

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  24. Very accurate. My honeymoon phase seems to be at an end too and its only been a couple of months. I don’t even want to write reviews because they require too much thinking and time to complete haha. Hopefully we’ll be able to fight the blogging blues and continue!

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    1. I found a whole bunch of great reads lately so I’ve been bouncing back! But you should definitely just kick back and concentrate on other things if you’re not feeling it – the blog will always be here.

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  25. I feel like I’ve had so many blogging honeymoons and didn’t even realize it until I read this. I easily lose interest with blogging in many of the ways you mentioned and it always takes me months to get back into the swing of things! I actually like how you get over your lack of interest! I feel like doing some of those things could help me as well.

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    1. The blogging honeymoon is pretty much cyclical isn’t it? Older bloggers tell me it’s usually around this time of the year that the hype all die down – I guess due to school and the upcoming holidays! Hope you find some of the things that worked for me helpful!

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  26. I really wished my honeymoon never ended but it did. And that was even before I was thinking about stats and stuff. Man, good times. I think I will take some of your review tips/advice when I am bored of writing reviews.

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    1. I tried to write my review in a fancy epistolary format the other day and it worked excellently for me!! Don’t be afraid to experiment with your posts – though judging from your blog you already do a fantastic job of it, Val!

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  27. I will say I think it’s also okay to just stop worrying about stats if that’s not a healthy thing for you. I became much happier when I stopped checking my stats with any regularity since now I’m writing what I want to write instead of trying to figure out what will get me the most page views!

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    1. The only stats I check now is the viewcount at the bottom of my site XD I decided to not let my infrequency of posting bother me too much- I post just 3-4 times a week now and I find it so much more manageable!

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    1. Getting a coblogger must do wonders!! I am contemplating one myself, though I am super picky! You are so lucky to have found Nick, I think you will both be so great together.

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  28. I’m definitely on blogging slumps right now! I thought that once I finished my exams, I’d miss blogging again, but I’m not. I haven’t even finished a single book this month! But then I realized, blogging is not a job, so I don’t have to feel pressured and I’m allowed to take a break whenever I want. Your advices are great though, maybe I’ll try it later 😀 Hopefully it’ll get me back to blogging.

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    1. Precisely Tiffany! Always have fun with your hobby! Good luck with life, and I hope your exams went well. Hopefully doing the BBCreativityProject will get you back in the mood?

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  29. Great post Aentee. I get blogger burnout so easily and the best thing I did recently was stay away from my blog for two weeks. I came back to it with renewed enthusiasm and decided that to be able to continue with my blog I need to do short posts from now on. They don’t overwhelm me so much!

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    1. I’m glad your break worked for you! I plan to go on holiday in November and hope it’ll be enough to renergise me as well!

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  30. Here’s what I have to say:

    #1: HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME. God, I can’t remember the last time I gave 5 stars to a book! I’be also asked myself if my interest in reading has faded at all! I love what you do. Arc copies are seriously stressing. I stopped with them and tbh I’m not sure if I will come back. My tbr is already too big.

    #2: I’m starting to feel like my reviews are an obligation, so if I don’t review a book immediately after finishing it, I get stressed out! I start to procrastitane on tumblr, twitter or even staring at the book!

    #3: This is my life. I ALWAYS get annoyed at bloggers and GRers. I’m ALWAYS complaining about the same things. But you know what? Sharing it is a good way to free yourself of that. I bet it felt good.

    #4: Sigh, I don’t know when this stopped for me. One day I was excited my blog was getting more traffic and comments, and the others I didn’t even log on WP. I hope this doesn’t mean I will lose complete interest.

    #5: Did you read my mind?! I also suffer this!! The difference is I’m more interested and loving more the things I do for classes. I’m liking more my obligations than my hobby. Sigh.

    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS POST. Keerp being the amazing person you are, and if you need me, you know I’m on gchat. Sorry for the long comment.

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    1. The bad side of not requesting ARC is that I HAVE SPENT SO MUCH MONEY ON BOOK THIS WEEK XD It’s absurd. I need to find that perfect balance where my hobby isn’t costing me too much but it’s still giving me all the joys I.E. I need to find myself a library. You can always rant to me if you are feeling down, esp about other bloggers, of course 😉 ❤ I'm glad you found Tash to help you and Evelyn out with the blog though – she's such an awesome fit for you two!

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  31. I’ve definitely struggled with 1 this year! I’ve stopped requesting ARCs almost entirely, because many of them ended up not working out at all. But even with the books I want to read and have purchased, it’s been harder to find ones that REALLY grab me. There’s been a lot of 4 star books that are good, but no new favorites really.

    Number 5 is something I’ve been doing these last few months; some nights I don’t even want to get on my computer and just end up watching TV or listening to music instead.

    When these get too overwhelming, I just take a break from my blog for a day or two. I even took a 3 week hiatus, and since I got back, it’s been a bit easier. It’s definitely hard to sit down and write a review, but it happens! Also I realized that my reviewing and posts had been so lazy, so I’m really working on being more descriptive and put effort into my posts 😀

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    1. The last book I’ve read that I full on loved was Six of Crows and Fangirl – why can’t EVERY book I read be like that? Then my love for blogging would never end. I initially started blogging to rave about the books I’ve adored – so reading a steady streak but good-not-great books can be a bit of a bummer. I definitely need to take breaks more – although I’ve only been doing this for 4 months, whenever I take a break I feel all GUILTY? WTF? XD

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  32. I can’t tell you how long I’ve felt the same Aentee. I’ve been blogging for almost three years now come new years day and the last few months have left me feeling so incredibly duck like. You know, all calm ad composed above the water and paddling like my ass is on fire beneath the surface just to stay afloat. Point one is exactly what I did to pull myself out of it, reading non review copies and picking and choosing what I reviewed. I also decided that with unsolicited copies, If they don’t interest me I just pass them into another blogger who might enjoy them now. That was what was really weighing me down, the expectation to review them all. What really helped me was finally being able to share blogging with a friend and since Kynn came on board I’ve never been happier, even more so than in those initial few months after I begun blogging. We’re not just cobloggers, we’re incredible friends and I think having that person to share the journey with really makes all the difference too. Really lovely post Aentee and I’m sorry to hear about your slump at the moment. Have you thought about perhaps wanting to share your space with someone? Really handy tips Aentee, definitely bookmarking for future reference and thanks so, so much for sharing ❤ ❤

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    1. I can already feel that your blog is a lot more happier with Kynn around, you two are such a great match and I am so happy you found her to share the joys of reading and blogging ❤ I am coming out of my reading slump, so I am all happy again! I've also decided to blog just every second day now to give me more time for commenting and other hobbies – so I'm much happier as well. Maybe there will be a coblogger in my future, if I get even lazier XD

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  33. interesting post. I went through some of this. Recently I felt like every book I read did not sit well with me. I like going back and reading stuff I wanted to read, it makes me a happier person. Cleanses my pallet so to speak? Thought it feels like it shouldn’t be a problem right, aren’t the ARCs we get should we stuff we want to read to begin with and yet we end up being blah

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    1. I went and read a whole bunch of titles I’ve previously wanted to read last week and it made loads of difference! I think it’s because I request a lot of ARCs without reading up on them. At least my NG rating is back to 80% now so I will start choosing more wisely!

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  34. So so SO true and relatable. I have a feeling, my blogger honeymoon is over. I’ve been slacking in reviewing and in reading in general. Sometimes, opening the Word document really IS an effort. I can totally relate to 1, 3 & 5. Pretty much all of it, honestly. 😀 Lovely post, Aentee!

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  35. This is quite possibly the best post ever, a clear sign that your honeymoon is still firmly intact 😉 But no, I really understand all of this. SO much. I am glad I am NOT the only one who gets privately grumpy about other people! It’s definitely a situation where I am frustrated with ME, but am (in my head, of course!) taking it out on everyone else. Today was one of those days. I saw a bunch of ARCs of Titans (which I am dying for) and so many creative posts, and I said to friends something like- Look, I am mad at the world today, so I am going to let myself grump around at some ARCs with envy, and sulk because I feel stagnant, and hopefully I will be okay tomorrow. It is HARD. And I am SO bad with the last one- I feel guilty if I watch TV instead of blogging, if I don’t finish commenting back, etc. And I don’t want to feel that way. It is probably not healthy 😉

    I do have the opposite stats problem. I stalk them. I stalk them HARD. This is the first month that mine have gone DOWN, and I am really bummed about it. I feel like I am obviously doing something wrong, I just can’t figure out WHAT. And I think all my insecurities probably translate into subpar posts, which just creates a vicious cycle. We need to all be kinder to ourselves. Because you are SO right- it DOES feel like a new romance at first! But then that wears off, and it is HARD, and we need to cut ourselves some slack and remember that it’s supposed to be fun. FABULOUS post 😀

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    1. EEEP Thank you Shannon!! Your comments always make my day and make me feel all special. I already know you are a bit stats savvy from a previous comment XD I use to love them but mine went down this month (less posting and no graphics post, I guess) so I had a sad and decided to quit looking for a while.

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  36. Ahahah your post is absolutely perfect – as like all the other posts that I’ve ever seen from you. I totally understand, and I didn’t really realise that my honeymoon period was coming to an end until you mentioned it in this post! However, I think I subconsciously recognised it, because I did think up a solution: enlist other people. Do you have bookish friends? Coz I do, and passing off ARCS and Review Copies to them to read and review for me is such a relief, as it takes the pressure off me to review, and I can read it for pleasure at another time. I guess to combat the end of the honeymoon, you can enlist people who are just starting their honeymoon! Therefore, your honeymoons can cancel each other’s out XD ! I totally get your procrastination point I procrastinate way too much, especially when I make graphics for my blog. I spend like 2 hours in Photoshop not really doing anything, just doing aimless fun stuff. But I’ve never put anything off for THREE WEEKS THOUGH! I mean, that has to be a new record! The most I’ve ever put a review off is 3 hours. And then I start it because I feel so guilty about procrastinating :\

    Anyway, thanks for such a great post and sorry for such a long comment 🙂

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    1. I would love to pass off ARCs but people around me either i) have no interests in books or ii) are quite capable of getting ARCs of their own haha. I just feel guilty with the books lying around. I guess I could do giveaway when I have more money for postage. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  37. Aentee it’s so interesting how we can relate to each other so well being at different stages of our blogging career! I particularly love what you said about the negativity, but thats why we have to create positive blogging experiences and connections. Also realising that wr can’t blog at a super churn out rate because we’ll just get burnt out and put off! It’s all about pacing ourselves I think. Awesome discussion post!

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  38. I really needed this post! I’m trying to get my groove back after some major book blogging hiatus. I was on maternity leave and I was reading like crazy, but now that I want to get back on blogging about it, I feel as if it’s such a chore. I found that taking a break for a couple of days usually works. Thank you for this!

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